Friday, August 24, 2018

Dye Your Thoughts

Did you ever wash a load of laundry, say a load of whites, and a stray something or other that’s bright red or blue or green gets thrown in by mistake?

Recently, we had some guests and I did the laundry. Towels, mostly, but I decided to save a little time by throwing in a table cloth. The towels were snow white. The table cloth was mostly red. And . . . I ended up with nice pink towels. I found out when Kim said with a groan, “Oh, Joe!”
Yup, I had some ‘splainin’ to do.

Over the years, there have been faded this or that, oddly colored undies, mostly by my hand, I’m afraid. I learn from it or try to learn from it and move on.

Then there are those things we intend to dye. Every Easter, we dyed eggs. Sometimes fingers and hands take on a nice shade of blue or purple that has nothing whatsoever to do with cold or circulation. We make sure newspaper covers the table, but every now and then, the wooden table top picks up a stray color.

And when the kids decided they needed to tie-dye shirts, they did so. Our backyard took on the look of a cheap sweatshop. All in good fun.

From his book, Meditations, Marcus Aurelius writes, “The soul becomes dyed with the colour [sic] of its thoughts.”

Lots of different meanings for that quote, I think. Each of us might take something different from it.

For me, I believe it means that what I dwell on, I become. If I choose to see only the negative, the nasty, the bad luck, and the heartbreak, my view of the world . . . my world, becomes as I think it. If, on the other hand, I choose to see the beauty, be it in struggle, in the attempt, in the effort, my view of the world . . . my world, becomes as I think it.

It all comes down to perception and perspective.

I can choose to see a “no” or “not interested” as an affront, as a setback or even as a dead end. Or I can see “no” or “not interested” as an opportunity, as a “not yet.”

I might spill the coffee or juice. I might spill something on my shirt or slacks. I might get stuck in traffic on the way to work. Any inconvenience, annoyance or any disruption from what you or I might have planned can be cause for negativity, might be cause for proclaiming loudly once again, “This always happens to me!” And indeed, it might because we sometimes expect it to happen.

In the same book, Aurelius writes, “The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.”

I might add the “constancy” and the “consistency” of your thoughts.

And lastly, Aurelius writes, “When you arise in the morning think of what a privilege it is to be alive, to think, to enjoy, to love ...”

My nephew, Jared, in his short life taken way too early, listened to the song, Play That Funky Music because in his own words and with a smile that would light up the darkest room . . . the darkest heart, “You can’t possibly listen to that song and not smile!” A pretty cool philosophy on life! Might want to give it a try.

You see, there will always be those who have less than we do, just as there will always be those who have more than we do. Always. There will be those who seem to have all the breaks, while others, perhaps ourselves, who seem to get swallowed up by each break. But if we take good ol’ Marcus at face value, perhaps it is our perception, our own thinking that sets us up for a rise just as our own thinking sets us up for a fall. Perhaps.  

Take solace in the fact that we were able to get out of bed, breathe, shower, and drive off to pursue a job, a dream, an opportunity . . . life. That’s always a good thing, isn’t it? Perhaps check what it is we choose to use to Dye Our Thoughts. Something to think about . . .

Live Your Life, and Make A Difference!

To My Readers:

My book, Caught in a Web has picked up some terrific reviews recently. “…cruelty of bullying, unfairness of dying young, horror of drug addiction; a writer who has seen what he writes about.” Authors Favorites “. . .probes the worlds of teens and gang members...precise, staccato details . . . the right blend of tension and intrigue . . .” Midwest Book Review "Important, nail-biting . . . one of the year's best conspiracy thrillers" Best Thrillers. “An epic journey through the quagmire that teenagers are subjected to in today’s schools . . . focuses on inexplicable issues where there are no neat answers as to why these things happen or how to eradicate the scourge.” AuthorsReading

In fact, for the last Eight Months, Caught in a Web has been on the Best Thrillers of the Year List by Best Thrillers! And, it is #28 on the Online Book Club Best Books of the Year List, and #4 in Crime-Thriller-Mystery on that same list!

If you are interested in finding out more about who I am or why I write what I do, I had the great opportunity to have been interviewed recently on two video shows. You can find them one hosted by Joseph Carrabis titled Author Plunge at  The other is Author's Corner Live! Here is the link for the interview!

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I have some exciting news:

Black Rose Writing, the company that published Caught in a Web has accepted for publication another of my books, Spiral into Darkness and it will be out in January 2019. On my author page on Facebook, I will post passages and snippets from time to time and keep you updated on the publishing progress. It is currently in the editing process.

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