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Sunday, June 25, 2023

A Big Change!

At times, life can throw you a curve ball. Some aren’t welcome: health news; financial news; death. Some are more than welcome: health news; financial news; an expected birth.

One week ago, on Monday morning at 7:09 AM, Kim and I gained new titles: Grandparents!

Hannah and her husband, Alex, gave birth to a baby boy, Mason William. Their first child. Our first grandchild. 6 pounds, 14 ounces, and 20 inches long. Almost mirrored Hannah at her birth, who was one ounce and one inch less. Both had a head of hair. Both came out wide awake without crying, more curious than anything. And both, tiny.

Our world, and their world, changed expectantly and excitedly. Forever changed, and we welcome it!

Kim and I spent most of the week at their house helping them. Not at all in an intrusive way, but gently suggesting this or that, but honestly, Hannah is perfect at being a mom. She’s got this. Alex, who had never changed a diaper before Mason arrived, is learning, but he’s a quick study and both are excellent parents. You can see the love they have for Mason and for each other in the way they interact with him and between the two of them. It’s beautiful to see.

And it is beautiful in the way Kim has become a grandmother. So gentle, so loving, so kind and generous of her time and talent. Watching her with Mason, and with Hannah and Alex, only reminded me of how much I love her. It brought back a flood of memories with our two babies, Hannah and Emily. Both different, but in many ways, both similar. Watching Emily as an aunt is also beautiful to see. Gentle, a little lacking in confidence, but she too will get it and in the short time she was there, got it. She’ll be a great aunt, just as she is a wonderful sister and a terrific daughter. I love her to pieces.

Our new life. This curveball accepted willingly and gladly. Happily.

I’ve written before how life has its ups and downs. Like waves on the ocean, troughs and crests. We ride them, navigate them. We embrace them. Knowing how old I am- hitting 70 in November, this is welcomed and reminds me that life is truly worth living, and loving. I’m smiling through it all. A tear or two of joy. Precious to hold and to behold. Truly, life is worth living no matter the fastball, no matter the curve ball. Ride the wave like an expert surfer. Sometimes falling, only to climb back up on the board, wiping the water from the eye, and catching the next wave. Something to think about …

Live Your Life, and Make A Difference!

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A late-night phone call, a missing kid, a murdered family, but no one is talking. A promise is made and kept, but it could mean the death of a fifteen-year-old boy. Greed can be all-consuming, and seeing is not believing. No one can be trusted, and the hunters become the hunted. https://amzn.to/2EKHudx

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They found the bodies of high school and middle school kids dead from an overdose of heroin and fentanyl. A violent gang, MS-13, controls the drug trade along the I-94 and I-43 corridors. They send Ricardo Fuentes to find out who is cutting in on their business, shut it down and teach them a lesson. But he has an ulterior motive: find and kill a fifteen-year-old boy, George Tokay.

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Sunday, June 4, 2023

The Watch

I read this story on Instagram, fell in love with it, and wanted to pass it on to each of you who take the time to read my blog. It comes from Mindset Therapy. It goes like this …

Before he died, a father said to his son, “Here is a watch your grandfather gave me. It’s almost 200 years old. Before I give it to you, go to the jewelry store downtown. Tell them I want to sell it and see how much they offer you.”

The son went to the jewelry store, came back to his father, and said, “They offered $150 because it’s too old.” The father said, “Go to the pawn shop.”

The son went to the pawn shop, came back to his father, and said, “The pawn shop offered $10 because it looks too worn out.” The father asked his son to go to the museum and show them the watch.

He went to the museum, came back, and said to his father, “The curator offered $500,000 for this very rare piece to be included in their precious antique collections.”

The father said, “I wanted to let you know that the right place values you in the right way. Don’t find yourself in the wrong place and get angry if you are not valued. Those that know your value are those who appreciate you. Don’t stay in a place where nobody sees your value.”

The Moral of the Story …

Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

I’ve worked in some positions where I didn’t feel valued. I’ve also been involved in relationships where I didn’t feel valued. In each case, I thought something might be wrong with me. I felt I was to blame, and I suppose to some degree, I probably was to blame. But perhaps I was in the wrong place at the wrong time, and in a relationship I didn’t belong. That might apply to many of us. Sometimes it happens to ourselves, while other times, it is someone else’s doing.

I had a professor in my counseling program who followed most of the tenets of Alfred Adler, a psychotherapist. His was a philosophy I adhered to more times than not. My professor had a saying, “Don’t wear the shirt if it doesn’t fit.”

We’ve all done this before and still do from time to time, but wearing the wrong shirt doesn’t feel right. If it’s too large, we drown in it, or if it’s too small, we feel constricted. But if we put on the right shirt, a comfortable shirt that’s right for the occasion, well, it’s just right. Think of Goldilocks. One chair was too big, while another was too small. But one was just right.

Each of us, no matter how old or young you are, whether you have money to burn or are just scraping by, whether we’re famous or if we blend in anonymously, have value. We have value because, as humans, we are deserving of it. Don’t allow yourself to be in any place that doesn’t value you, and don’t allow yourself to be with anyone who doesn’t value you. You, each of you, have value. Please don’t think otherwise. Something to think about …