I had several close childhood friends and I’ve often wondered what became of them, how we lost touch.
Russ and I were friends since kindergarten all the way through eighth grade. He lived up the hill from me, and we did most everything together. He and his family moved away first, but maybe a year later, my family moved close to the same neighborhood. Besides, we still saw each other every day in school.
However, I went away to a boarding school for high school about an hour away from the city I grew up in. While I came back most weekends, somehow, we lost touch and lost the friendship we once had. The friends I ended up with were my high school friends, but because we came from different towns and cities, we only saw each other during school. Summers, everyone disappeared into their own worlds. Remember, this was way before cell phones, FaceTime, and computers. But when school started again, our friendships and relationships picked back up.
Until we graduated …
Then, I seldom saw them. Seldom heard from them. My close friends, Jeff and I, graduated together, while Steve and Neil were one year younger. We lost touch. Neil and I were able to reconnect through Facebook, but I haven’t seen him in years. I have no clue where Steve and Jeff are, and I don’t know how to get a hold of them. Sad.
College? Roommates drifted away, as did I. Classes and activities pulled us away from each other. I eventually moved out of state for my first job. Came back three years later. But my life and my work were more important to me than keeping up with them. Same with them, I guess.
When Kim and I got married and had our kids, and our family became most important to us- both immediate and extended. We were acquaintances with other soccer and swim moms and dads, but really only acquaintances, not friends. Our time and effort went into each other and into our kids.
I stumbled upon a YouTube video of Tyler Perry speaking to an audience about the loss of friendships. He characterized it like boosters on a rocket. When the fuel runs out or when they reach a certain altitude, the boosters drop off. The boosters were not meant to travel the entire distance with the rocket, but they serve a purpose to lift the rocket and then drop off.
He went on to say that some friends were only meant to boost you on your way, to help you become who you are. They didn’t and don’t have the capability of reaching the same heights as you, so, they drop off and disappear, living only in our memories as we reminisce about them.
I look back fondly at my relationships with some of my teacher, coaching, counseling, and administrative buddies and friends. Mark, Dan, and Tim. Amy, Harry, Wes, Felix, and Dave. Others far too many to remember and put on paper. Former students. Dan and Dave, brothers who stayed in touch over the years. Steve and Hugh. Again, so many to list here.
But I like and appreciate the analogy of friends like boosters on a rocket helping me reach the heights I was able to travel, helping me become the person I am today. Forever grateful and appreciative of their companionship along the way. Their friendship. Their presence. They made life more pleasurable, and in some cases, bearable. Thanks for what you did for me, are doing for me, for who you are to me. Something to think about …
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Great blog post. I saw your post on LinkedIn and came over. Some friends are with us for a season, some for a reason and a few are forever. Thanks for the reminder!ReplyDelete
Thank you, Lana! I appreciate you stopping by, and I appreciate your thoughts!ReplyDelete