Thoughts on everyday life and inspiring others to contribute to life in a positive way.
Thursday, December 19, 2013
A Need To Be Peace
Growing up in the Midwest, especially as a youngster (more than many moons ago), I couldn’t wait until the first snowflake fell. There is a silence that takes place. It is quiet. Depending upon the size of the snowflakes, if one listens closely, you can hear snowflakes fall upon branches of trees. If you listen closely, you can hear their gentle touch upon the window. It is truly Peaceful.
So many times during the holiday season . . . any holiday season . . . sentiments of Peace are expressed. People talk about the Peace and Joy of the Season . . . the Peace and Serenity of Christmas. It brings a smile to my face and lightens my heart. It’s a great feeling. There’s joy and the expression, I believe, is intentional. There is sincerity in that expression.
I’m not sure where I heard it or read it, where the idea was expressed, that Peace isn’t a feeling. Peace isn’t a circumstance or situation. Peace isn’t an expression.
Instead, Peace is a way of speaking, a way of behaving, a way of listening. It was expressed that Peace needs to be more than wished for, and more importantly, Peace isn’t something to attain, to gain, to have.
Peace cannot be expected to last unless and until Peace is lived.
Peace Cannot Be Expected To Last Unless And Until Peace Is Lived!
Khalil Gibran wrote, “No one can find inner peace except by working, not in a self- centered way, but for the whole human family.” Gibran also wrote, “When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.”
So . . .
I would like each of us, this Peaceful season, to contemplate how we think, how we speak, how we act, how we listen. I would like each of us to consider that there is A Need To Be Peace. In our lives. With each other. For each other. I would like each of us to consider that Peace is more than a feeling. Peace is certainly more than a sentiment, an expression no matter how sincere, no matter how much joy that expression brings.
I believe Peace is a way of life. And . . . if each of us considers that Peace is a way of living, a way of speaking, a way of thinking, a way of listening, how much better will our relationships be! With ourselves . . . with each other . . . with those whose lives we touch day in and day out. Perhaps then, we can achieve what we’ve only expressed up until now. Peace. It’s something to think about . . .Live Your Life, and Make A Difference!
Tuesday, December 17, 2013
God Doesn't Make Mistakes!
Most every
Monday evening, my family and I watch Monday Night Football. It really doesn’t matter who plays. We just like football.
I found last
evening inspiring.
Now that I got
your attention, I realize an 18-16 score game isn’t exciting, especially when
our favorite team wasn’t playing. But I
was inspired nonetheless.
Before the game,
during all the commentary about who should win, who won’t win, why they will
win, and why they won’t, there was a piece . . . a segment . . . on Joey.
A little girl
who died at Sandy Hook Elementary School while she and her class were
celebrating her birthday. Almost her
entire class was murdered. A tragic
loss.
What inspired me
was her story. How her parents
reacted. Their devastating and tragic
loss. A stupid and senseless loss. My wife and I wept.
But in the
aftermath, what followed, was that a playground was built in her honor. There was an inscription . . . I wish I could
remember the entirety of it and I’m afraid I can’t, I’m very sorry I can’t . .
. but the inscription was something to the effect of “Joey can’t be here, but
she wants you to play.” And her mother
said, that Joey spent most of her life playing.
Playing on a playground. And when
the idea came up from a fireman to build a playground in her memory, her mother
stated, “Yes. Someone who gets it.” And as she said it, she smiled and looked
up. She looked up and it was a beautiful
smile. I won’t forget that. Not ever.
And while her
story was so moving, it was Ray Lewis, the retired linebacker and leader of the
Ravens who tied it all together for me.
He sent a letter
to the family and that letter has come to mean so much to the family. When Ray Lewis was asked to explain why he
sent the letter to the family . . . and again, I’m not at all doing justice to
him, to his thoughts, to his meaning, nor to the memory and impact that Joey
had on, well, most everyone, especially me, he said, “God Doesn’t Make Mistakes.”
God Doesn’t Make
Mistakes.
I needed to hear
that.
I wrote two
posts recently, Inconvenienced By Tragedy and Final Applause, that spoke to the
death of my nephew and its impact on my extended family . . . the impact on
me. Ray Lewis’ statement, “God Doesn’t
Make Mistakes!” pretty much summed it up a heck of a lot better than I
could. Than I did.
You see, he
explained that evil is all around us.
All around us. But God has a way
of using that evil . . . a tragedy . . . to bring about some good. To bring an impact in our lives . . . in the
lives of others.
Gang, I’m not a
great philosopher. I write words and
most of the time, I hope and pray they spring from my heart. Sometimes I fall flat on my face. Sometimes . . . I hope most times . . . I
manage to rise above the floor a little bit.
But, while you
and I might not ever know of the good that springs from evil . . . God might
turn an evil around and into something good . . . I truly believe, like Ray
Lewis does, that God Doesn’t Make Mistakes.
Not ever. No way. There might always be evil in the world. Unfortunately, always. Yet, I honestly believe . . . deep in my
soul, deep in my heart of hearts . . . that there will always be good. And, I believe more importantly, good will
always trump evil. Always! I might not understand it. I may not see it in my lifetime. But I believe that good will always trump
evil. Because in the end, God Doesn’t
Make Mistakes. That is something to
think about . . .
Live Your Life,
and Make A Difference!
Friday, December 13, 2013
My Christmas Wish!
Kim and I
dutifully ask our kids for their Christmas list at this time of year, every
year. When the kids were younger, their
lists were lengthy, but there has never been anything too extravagant or
outlandish. As they got older, their
lists have become noticeably shorter and a lot more predictable: videos, a cd
or two, gift cards to their favorite clothing stores (man, had I known, I would
have bought stock!). In fact, not only
have their lists become shorter and more predictable, Kim and I had to remind
them several times so we could go shopping for them.
And in turn, the
kids will ask us what we want. Hmmm . .
.
You know, as I
get older, I’m harder to buy for, though much of what I want isn’t in
stores. Probably wouldn’t fit in a
stocking. Not sure if Santa could fit it
into his sleigh or get it down the chimney.
So, what do I
want?
I’d like
continued health as I get older. I don’t
want to worry about routine doctor’s visits and what he/she will find. I want the glaucoma in my left eye to stop
growing, so I don’t have to worry about what I will or won’t be able to see.
My mom turns 99
years old in two weeks. I’d like to see
her get to a hundred or beyond, even if she doesn’t necessarily remember me
even after I remind her two or three times in a visit. Turning a 100 years old would be a really
neat gift . . . I think for her, for me, for our family.
My extended family
has gone through some tough times lately.
Jared passed away in October. My
sister-in-law is battling an aggressive cancer. My sister is slowly, painfully ill and had to
be hospitalized until . . . One of my
other sisters almost died once a while ago, but survived. She can’t get around like she once could,
though she’s what we would call “a gamer” and does her best. I’ve gotten closer to her lately and want
that relationship to grow. Not ready yet
for that to end. I’d like for my
extended family to have a peaceful lull.
To have peace. Nothing but joy, laughter
at least for a little while.
I want my kids
to be happy, to be successful, to enjoy a life they choose. I want my kids to survive the bumps along the
way and for them to know that I love them so very much and that I always will
even if I get grouchy now and then, or picky, or pushy. That I will always support them. Always love them. Always.
And that I would do anything and everything I could for them. And even more if I could.
I want those
kids in my school who don’t have much, to have much, to have at least
enough. To not go hungry. To not worry about what or when they are
going to eat or where they will sleep.
To not worry about their mom or dad who are and have been out of work
trying to make ends meet.
I want the
teachers in my school who are suffering quietly, who are worrying silently, who
are battling something terrifying in their lives to have peace, to experience
joy, to be embraced by warmth and comfort, by a gentle touch, a knowing nod,
and to know that they aren’t alone and don’t have to go it alone. There are a number of them I know about, and
I’m sure, a number of them I don’t know about.
I want my wife
and I to grow old together. To continue
to laugh, to experience joy with each other, to know what each of us is
thinking without ever having to tell the other.
I want her to know she is my best friend, my very best friend. Always has been and always will be.
I suppose there
is a lot more I could put on my list. A
lot more. Not sure how Santa will work
this list out or fit it all onto his sleigh or down the chimney. Not sure where my kids will shop for it
all. Not sure if they have enough money in
their wallet for it all. But this is my
Christmas Wish. For me . . . for you . .
. for all of us. Something to hope for. Something to think about . . .
Live Your Life,
and Make A Difference!
Tuesday, December 10, 2013
In Need Of Balance
You know, when I
push away from the Thanksgiving table, I know without a doubt I over did
it. Stuffed, and I’m not just talking
the turkey, though some would argue I am a turkey. They might be right. Probably right.
I think most of
us feel like that after a Thanksgiving dinner.
Not the turkey part, but the stuffed part. Who doesn’t?
Turkey, mashed potatoes, gravy, stuffing, cranberries, sweet potatoes,
green bean casserole, pie. Lots of pie!
And then we feel
bloated. More than just full. Mostly, ready to explode.
In Need Of
Balance.
School was
canceled for the past two days. Snow,
sleet, ice. Unsafe for buses and unsafe
for young drivers. Needed to proceed
with caution. Better to be safe.
Nature dumped on
us like it does sometimes. We reacted
and created balance.
Of course, a
pile of work awaits me upon my return.
Observations, the write ups, the post observation conferences. Games rescheduled for another day. Lessons that had been prepared will be taught
another day, but then those lessons taught another day, and on, and on.
In Need Of
Balance.
Sometimes our
words, our actions, perhaps our lack of words and our inactions cause us to be
out of Balance. We tangle with each
other, ourselves. We harm ourselves,
perhaps others, knowingly, mostly unknowingly . . . at least I would hope
so.
There is the
need to gather ourselves, to find our center, to find the mid-point. There is the need to find the Balance between
action and inaction, to find the Balance between words and silence, to find the
Balance between too much and not enough.
Each year, one
of our teachers organizes a food drive to feed those families who might not
have much to eat. Kids and teachers
contribute hundreds of pounds to feed many who just don’t have. This year, our social worker put up a tree in
the staff workroom and instead of ornaments, had possible items that could be
purchased and donated to families who don’t have much or nothing at all. Within 30 minutes, the tree was stripped
clean. All items taken by staff willing
to help contribute. So, she put more
items on the tree, only to find those items taken by willing staff members..
Each year, my
administrative team delivers poinsettias to each staff member as a way of
saying thank you, as a way of saying we appreciate what you do, what you’ve
done. This year, several of my staff
members suggested that we give inexpensive gift cards, such as Starbucks,
Subway. They reasoned that then, those
staff members who want to can give their cards to our social worker who can
then give them to needy families. Pretty
cool idea.
In Need Of
Balance.
We can create Balance. I believe we seek Balance. We have in our nature to be in Balance. We know intuitively when we are out of Balance. We feel it: in our body, in our mind, in our
soul. And I believe it is in our nature
to help others create Balance when we recognize those who are close to us are
out of Balance. And, as adults, it is so
very important to help our children learn to maintain Balance in their lives,
in their souls, and in their minds. Such
a very important lesson to learn. One of
our greatest charges, I think. Our future,
their future, depends upon this.
Something to think about . . .
Live Your Life,
and Make A Difference!
Friday, December 6, 2013
Learning To Drive
I went through
it; you went through it; we all went through it. Equal mix of excitement, fear and
trepidation, I suppose.
A whole
different feeling for me as I sit shotgun in the passenger seat. Way different.
Typically, I
drive. I am behind the wheel. I am in control. I think I’m a pretty good driver, though I
know I scare the living daylights out of my wife, who actually teaches Behind
The Wheel. I tend to go a bit slower
than most. Kim calls it “Driving like an
Old Man!” At least I’ve not gotten a
ticket and I have not been in an accident in years.
Our youngest,
Emily, is Learning To Drive. While Kim
has taken Emily out on most trips for her to practice, I spend some time in the
passenger seat riding shotgun. There are
times when I find myself pushing the imaginary brake. I know at times I talk too much, maybe
distract her a bit too much as I point out things to look for, things to watch
for. Sometimes I nitpick on slowing down
or signaling intentions or checking mirrors.
Have to keep a bit more quiet, I think.
I think she’d agree. I know she’d
agree.
I just want her
to be careful. To do well. To succeed and not get any tickets or get
into any accidents. I guess like any
parent.
Learning To
Drive.
She really does
a good job. She sits in the seat behind
the wheel. She adjusts the seat. Checks and changes the mirrors slightly. She makes sure the wheel is straight before
she even starts up the car, admonishing me if I leave it crooked because, “It’s
dangerous!” Yeah, I know. I get that.
She’s careful. She thinks
ahead. Observes everything. And, she really wants to do well. She doesn’t want to make a mistake.
Learning To
Drive.
Just like in
life, parents and teachers have to teach our kids. It isn’t easy sitting shotgun with only the
imaginary break to push as our kids take the wheel . . . of the car . . . of
life. We want them to succeed. We don’t want them to make mistakes. We don’t want them to have accidents.
And just as they
sit in the driver’s seat and take the wheel of the car, at some point, they sit
in the driver’s seat and take the wheel of their life. Scary for a parent, a teacher, a significant
other. Really scary because we so very
much want them to succeed. We so very
much don’t want them to make a mistake or get into an accident.
And honestly, I
find myself holding my breath a little each time she . . . they . . . sit
behind the wheel, each time they wave goodbye, each time . . .
I watch the
clock. I wonder. Yes, I worry.
Each time. Every time.
Learning To
Drive.
And just like
with a car, our kids need to learn how to navigate the streets of life. Watching out for this pothole. Being careful to watch for other drivers . .
. other people . . . because we don’t know what they will do. Making sure they don’t travel too close to
the edge. Somehow helping them navigate
down the center, making turns safely, and slowly, and carefully. Helping them see what lies ahead and to
somehow anticipate- ever a hard thing to do, to master. Just like in a car, we want our kids to
succeed and be safe in life. And it’s
never easy when you’re not behind the wheel, when you’re not in control, and with
just an imaginary break. Never easy. Not easy at all. Something to think about . . .
Live Your Life,
and Make A Difference!
Tuesday, December 3, 2013
Prepare, And The Preparation
The weekend after Thanksgiving is our weekend to
decorate the house for Christmas.
For the past couple of years, Hannah has been in
charge of setting up the lights outside.
She does a nice job. Each year it’s
a little different. Each year is
prettier than the last. When she’s done,
all of us chip in and decorate the inside of the house. Each year pictures get taken down and
seasonal pictures take their place. The
tree gets purchased. Kim puts on the
lights and together as a family, we put on the ornaments. Some old.
Some newer. Baby ornaments
depicting Wil’s, Hannah’s, Emily’s birth or birthday. A baseball ornament for Wil. Soccer ornaments for all three kids. Swimming ornaments for Hannah and Emily. Wedding and anniversary ornaments. Lots.
The tree is full. Full.
Each year, our Golden, Bailey, picks one and eats
it. Yup.
Never fails. One ornament a
year. Sherlock, before he died, did the
same thing. No clue why. They just do.
Together, Emily and I put up the Village. You could say that it’s our thing.
We set up two tables.
We make sure we have the extension cords. We place the fake snow down and then open up
the trunk and take out the boxes.
We place the houses,
and the shops, and the people just so.
They have to be just right. As if
one could step into the scene and take part.
Buy the baked ham or the freshly baked bread. Can almost smell it. Perhaps skate on the pond and drink hot
chocolate. Maybe cut down the Christmas
trees and sell them along with the seller.
Can almost smell the pine. Or,
help feed the chickens or milk the cow on the little homestead up on the hill
outside of town. The other animals
amongst the bales of hay.
Prepare, And The Preparation.
Almost, but not quite ready.
We have the lists of wishes, needs, and “I’d likes”. Shopping and wrapping and name tags. Tape.
Lots of tape. Random bundles and
stacks under the tree.
Prepare, And The Preparation.
Advent is one of my favorite seasons . . .
themes. Its very nature, its meaning, is
to Prepare. To make ready. To get ready.
To Prepare our heart.
To get our heart ready. To get our
mind ready. Each year, at the same time
of year, we Prepare. We make
Preparations.
We get to go change what we’ve done. We get to change how we do things. How we think.
How we act. How we treat people .
. . ourselves.
We have the opportunity to begin again. To make things right. To Prepare, and To Make Preparations. A great concept and philosophy. A concept that is truly more realistic than
an ideal.
My question is this: why should we wait until each
December to Prepare to do better . . . to think better? Why wait until each December to make our Preparations? Shouldn’t we do this each day? Every day?
And, why Prepare? Can’t we just
do? Each day . . . every day . . . just
do? And if we stumble and fall, if we
make a mistake, we try again . . . and again . . . and again. Each day . . . every day. Something to think about . . .
Live Your Life, And Make A Difference!
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